This idea is redeveloped in the book, the very good book that I recently told you about, The Chimp Paradox. What is the author's name? I don't remember. Peters, I think that's his name. But in any case, I talked about it some time ago, a few weeks ago, in the episode "Our Inner War", where I explained to you that we have two types of personality within us, our brain is composed of two distinct parts. There is a little more than that, but we summarize by the two major parts. One that is irrational, which controls our emotions, which manages our emotions, which is directed by our emotions, it is the chimpanzee part, and a rather logical part which is the human being. And these two parts are at war. I invite you to look for the episode of the podcast "Our Inner War" to learn a little more.
In this book, the author really gives us a good tip to really have self-confidence. He explains this by saying that very often the mistake we all make is that we base our confidence, the confidence we have in ourselves, we often base it on a result that we think we should achieve.
And depending on what result we think we should achieve, we're going to have... our level of self-confidence is going to go up or down. If we achieve this result we think we should france whatsapp number data achieve, we're going to have a lot of self-confidence; if we don't achieve this result we think , we're going to have less self-confidence.
This result that we think we should achieve is not clear and it is based on standards that are both vague, that is to say we cannot really measure them and these criteria, the choice, have we succeeded or not or this result that we think we should achieve, it is vague and it is not possible to measure, it is something like what others think of us. These are really somewhat vague things, that is perhaps the term I was looking for, vague things that do not depend on us.
And these things will tend to ultimately govern our self-confidence. These things are 100% built or 100% determined by our chimpanzee who lives by the laws of the jungle, that is to say that for the chimpanzee who lives by the laws of the jungle, the chimpanzee part of our brain, the priority is to survive, so we must integrate into the group, we must be recognized by others, otherwise in the jungle, if we are not part of a group and we are rejected by others, well we simply die. Well our chimpanzee still lives by these laws.
For the chimpanzee, for the emotional, irrational part of our brain, the results that we must achieve are results that make, for example, that we are accepted by the group, that we are recognized by others, that our community, the people who live around us, think positive things, feel positive things about us. All of this is really what will influence our self-confidence according to our chimpanzee.